10 Easy Ways Men Can Disciple Their Children

All Campuses  |  Published on February 21, 2017

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Pastor Todd Cox Shares His Tips For Discipleship In The Home

Pastor Robby shared a stat recently that “almost 9 out of 10 people begin to follow God before they leave the home.” By pointing out that Mom and Dad are the most influential people in the home, he challenged us to disciple our families. I know from talking with hundreds of men over the years that most men don’t disciple their children. Most guys feel intimidated by the thought of teaching God’s Word to their kids. Here are a few tips to help you connect with and disciple your children.

Dinner Table
In my home, we didn’t have a sit-down dinner every night, but when we did it was all about relationship (no TVs and no phones). This was the perfect time for me to hear about their day and interact with them. I always looked for an opportunity to ask a spiritual question.  

In the Car
Driving kids and friends to their activities is a great way to hear what’s going on in their lives. Some of our best conversations happened on the way to school. You don’t have to prepare a message, but you do need to be prepared. Ask open-ended questions that get them talking. Not every conversation will be life-changing.

Look for Open Doors
There are tons of opportunities if you are looking. Be engaged in the conversation. Remember that quality time happens during quantity time. You can’t plan for quality time because you never know when it will happen. Create enough space and time in your life to enjoy your children.

Family Devotions
This is the organized family meeting to discuss a Bible passage or truth. It doesn’t have to be intimidating. My daughters loved our devotions, not because of my teaching, but because they got to write in their new journals, and they got to talk. I wish I would have done this more often. I didn’t do it as much as I should have because of how I felt about myself (my inadequacies). In hindsight, I realize that my family just wanted me to get us together. Anything more than that is icing on the cake.

Start Early
If you start when your children are little, you will create a culture of having intentional conversations around the Word of God. It is so much easier to build good habits than it is to break bad habits.

If You Didn’t Start Early, Start Today
If you are starting with older children, don’t worry. It is never too late. There are things I started when my girls were in high school that I should have started in elementary, but they were still great memories. Today is all we have; don’t waste it. Some day, your children will move out. Trust me, do all you can today.

Date Your Kids
This is one of the best things I did with my girls. They loved daddy-daughter dates. If you have boys, do some kind of MANventure. It was during these special one-on-one dates that I had the most impact.

Bedtime
This is a great way to transition from chaos to bedtime. Read a book, pray together, do a study, or just talk. You have a captive audience because they often don’t want to go to bed.  

Make it Fun
Relationship is the special sauce in discipleship. It can’t be all teaching, especially with little ones. I was the king of silly in the early days. Laughter brings balance to the teaching and plays a big role in getting them to open up.

Be Intentional
One day your son or daughter will pull out of the driveway and head off on their own. On that day you will ask yourself: “Did I do enough?” If you invest in developing your relationship with your children and care enough about them to teach them the truth of God Word, then not only will they be prepared, but you will never lose them.

As a man who has sent his two daughters off to college, let me leave you with one thought: “Don’t put off until tomorrow what you can do today.” There are several days I would love to have back.

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